Rejection HURTS

Well, we made through Monday. I am hoping we all fun telling people what they did on the weekend. In this blog I want to be a little more vulnerable with you. I wish everything I wrote were cupcake and rainbows, but reality is no one has a perfect life you're going to have some bumps in it. Sometimes we apply for the perfect job and your prep and prep for it and when you think that you have it, you get the hr letter of rejection and you think to yourself "Why didn't they choose me, I rocked that interview". And by the time you're done getting mad, you start looking for another job and practice even harder to get that job. There are probably more examples of your life that has bumps in it. I know from experience of receiving rejection and it hurts like heck.

I went to school to be an electrician and I thought this profession was going to be good fit for me, but I thought wrong. In my mind I thought being an electrician was making someone dream come alive. The feeling of building something that your customer will live in made me feel so worth it and appreciated. Not all my jobs were houses, some were new stores. I remember being done with this job, I got a call from my boss, and he is telling me, "You're going to work here with this company." Me being excited and feeling confident with himself said to my boss, "sure, tell me what time I need to be there". The next day I drove up to the site and getting pumped and ready for the day. I walk up the owner of the company and said, "hello my name Tim, I am working with you guys today." Not even a second the owner calls his buddy and starts chuckling and proceeds to tell him "I'm working with a green card today." I remember hearing those words and not really doing anything about because I didn't really know what that meant.  

When I was done with that project I drove home and my mom ask, " How was your day?" I said to her "It was fine, but I want ask you something, what does it mean if someone calls you a greens card?" The look on my mother face was priceless. She replied to me and said, " It means that you are not a citizen." Fun fact. I know I'm Colombian and no I can't ever be president, but I do know that I am a citizen of USA. I have a ton of papers to prove that I am.  The next day, I went to my boss and explained my frustration from yesterday. My boss sat me down and told me what the gentlemen said, " This contractor doesn't like to work with Mexicans, and he thought you were a Mexican, so don't take it personal," I told him, " I'm not Mexican, I'm Hispanic and this is the kind of crap that makes me hate this industry because of people like him, don't respect me has a human being." I remember quitting that day and not looking back. 

Rejection hurts because all your trying to do in the world is to be accepted by people and live your life. I still struggle with accepting who I am because of past experiences of people making me feel so small. I know that I'm a good person but I'm not even close to perfect, but one thing I feel I'm good at is accepting people of who they are.

Next time you feel a little bit of rejection, think of 3 things that makes you feel special and loved.  I do this exercise with my kids every day. If you try this little exercise, you might love yourself even more than you think it. 

Thanks,

Tim 




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